The Dominant’s Creed


Above all else, a Dominant cherishes their submissive in the knowledge that the gift the submissive gives is the greatest gift of all.

A Dominant is demanding and takes full advantage of the power they hold, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from such power over another.

A Dominant is in control of themselves first and foremost, so that they may control others.

As a stern and demanding Dominant, they can cause their submissive to cry real tears; As a consummate lover, they will kiss such tears away without stepping out of character.

In times of trouble, a Dominant will leave the roles behind and be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two individuals.

A Dominant is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality.

A Dominant will never ask a submissive to put them before the submissive’s career or family just to satisfy their own pleasure.

To win a submissive’s mind, body, spirit, soul and love, a Dominant knows they must first win the submissive’s trust.

A Dominant will show their submissive humour, kindness and warmth.

A Dominant must always show their submissive that their guidance and tutoring in knowledgeable and deserving of the submissive’s attention, that the Dominant is a person they can learn from in in whom they can trust their direction.

A Dominant is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, they will fight for their submissive’s honour.

A Dominant proves to their submissive that they are someone who can be leaned upon and depended upon.

When it comes time to teach their submissive a lesson is obedience, a Dominant is a strong and unyielding teacher.

A Dominant will accept no flaw; nothing less than perfection from their student.

Never does a Dominant use discipline without good reason. When they punish their submissive it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.

A Dominant is always open to communication and discussion; always ready to hear their submissive’s wants and needs.

A Dominant is patient, taking time to learn their submissive’s limits and knowing that as the submissive’s trust in them grows, so to will they grow.

A Dominant never has to demand ritual behaviour from their submissive. Their submissive responds to them out of the want of pleasing them. Compliance comes from the desire to please, not the fear of punishment.

A Dominant understand the fragile nature of mind and body and never violates the trust given to them.

A Dominant is secure enough to laugh at themselves and the absurdities of life; open-minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow.

A Dominant’s tools are mind, body, spirit, soul and love.

A Dominant understands that E/each partner gains most from pleasuring the O/ther. And B/both of T/them know that love and trust are the only bonds that truly hold.

14 thoughts on “The Dominant’s Creed

  1. The Dominant`s Creed;- This makes perfect sense to me on how the relationship between
    the Domanant and submisive should be,from the Dom`s perspective. Domanance but always with the best interests of the submisive at heart.
    The best frame of mind to start out with,and continue with !


  2. No disease is either healthy or static. This one no exception. The end result is consumption ( fullfillment? ) of the submissive. The enjoyment of both dom & sub is that by experiencing it in “pleasurable” degrees, the finite moment can be milked for, hopefully, maximum pleasure. It’s too bad that time & dementia etc. will steal even the memory of these…. pleasures.


      1. I have it , and ‘the Loving Dominant’ as well, on my D/s themed blog {bluebump}–and several others you list here, saved in my personal files. . all great pieces.


  3. It’s really too bad that folks comment on things they really don’t grasp. As a Dominant I follow this creed in my interactions with my slave, daily. There is nothing about it that is “tripe”. It is the morally responsible way to approach the relationship between a sub and Dom. Thank you for posting it.


  4. This should be the law’s of the relationship between a Dom/mes and a submissive, there are out there man and women scaring this beloved title of been a Dom/me.
    These persons never seek for a good Dom/me x submissive relationship they simply greed pleasure and ignore everything else. I’m proud to be a slave to my Mistress who tought me this with such kindness and determination.


  5. In January’13 when someone asked who the author was, I stated here that it twas ‘Roger S’ (Siver), because he’d told me he was the author.– and a number of other men have said the same in mis-representation of themselves
    The real author is TorqueDom3. There was a link to him in Submissive Loving and I wrote to him in April this year. He confirmed authorship and had this say::.
    . . . . It’s been stolen, rewritten, plagiarized, renamed a thousand times, I originally posted it to the usenet newsgroup in 1988. It was published in a local sm magazine in 1994. Phillip Miller and Molly Devon asked for permission to rewrite it and include it in Screw the Roses, Send Me The Thorns. After almost 30 years, it doesn’t really matter. If you Google torquedom, my other essays are all over the net.
    . .


  6. As a Dominant, I find this to be quite accurately informative. Often times I find myself having trouble describing the relationship between D/S, but this, as well as the Submissive’s Creed, are fantastic references that I would recommend to anyone looking into the roles of a Dominant or Submissive.


  7. I do not agree with the one person above – being a Dom is not a disease , I tell my baby that I do not own her or want to , I possess her , protect her and take care of her along with using her in her role as my Sub., which she agrees with 100 % as she tells me her body is mine to do whatever I want with ..


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